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Last updated January 25, 2017 (originally published July 31,

By Alex Elson, Contributing Columnist

Everybody gets angry sometimes. Anger is normal, even
healthy in some situations. But there's a big difference
between being angry, and totally losing it.  If you find
yourself losing it more than you should, you may have an
anger management problem. Call it what you will ---anger,
losing it, raging --- it's not a strategy for a successful life, my
friend.  The interesting thing is, anger and losing control
seem to be on the rise. We in America are known for our
"stand and fight" attitude and that's usually a good thing. But
when does simple anger cross the line?  And if you can't help
getting angry too often, are there  techniques that can help
you get it back under control?  

What Happens to Your Body When You Get Angry?

According to the Charles Spielberger, a PhD psychologist
published in the American Psychological Association (ASA),
anger is an intense emotion that occurs in everybody and can
range from mild irritation to intense rage and fury. Along with
the actual sentiment of anger, the body experiences a few
common changes when one feels angry.

Both the heart rate and blood pressure increase.  Hormone
levels adjust as one becomes angrier, as do levels of
adrenaline and noradrenalin.

[ Update:
Getting angry also raises your risk for stroke, scientists have
found. A 2004 study from Tel Aviv University and the Israel
Center for Disease Control  found that people who had  
strokes were more likely to have been angry within 2 hours
before the stroke than at any other time within the previous
24 hours.]

The ASA indicates that the three main approaches to dealing
with anger are expressing, suppressing and calming.

Of these three, the healthiest option is expressing your anger
in an assertive, not aggressive way; you should communicate
to people what is making you angry. When we don’t address
our anger properly, it is often turned inward, which can
result in hypertension (
high blood pressure) or depression.
Angry people are often very prone to unsuccessful and
unhappy relationships. (Read more about
foods that lower
your blood pressure.)

Tracking the exact number of cases in which anger goes a
step too far is a nearly impossible task: very rarely are these
kinds of cases reported or documented. Nonetheless, an AAA
study in the 1990s showed that there were, on average,
almost 1,500 reported incidents of road rage every year
between 1990 and 1997. Road rage represents only a
fraction of the anger problem, but is one of the easier aspects
of the phenomenon to put in numbers.

In order to manage your anger appropriately, be it on the
road, at the workplace or at home, take a look at this list of
top 10 techniques to manage your anger.

Use Cognitive Restructuring to Avoid Coronary Heart
Disease as A Result of Anger
- According to the a study
conducted by Dr. Andrew Steptoe and Dr. Yoichi Chida in
2009, something called "cognitive restructuring" is one way
to keep your anger in check.

What is cognitive restructuring? Basically, you train yourself
to think of situations in a different way. Look at things
differently and you react differently. Here's an example. If
someone steps on your foot, and you see it as intentional,
you act one way. But if you see the possibility --just the
possibility --that it was an accident, you see things differently
and you will react differently.

In a sample group of almost 2,800 subjects, over 2,200
showed positive results from using cognitive restructuring.
The doctors suggested rearranging how subjects viewed the
problem as a means of combating anger.

As a general rule, avoid thinking in extremes. The world is
rarely all or nothing, black or white. For example, instead of
saying “everything’s ruined,” say, “this is frustrating, but it’s
not the end of the world.” Avoiding using words like
"always" and "never".

Use Problem Solving to Solve Your Anger Problems -The
same study mentioned above listed another logical
psychological management exercise in avoiding anger:
problem solving.

Break your problem down into small pieces and see where
the root lies. By stepping back and analyzing the situation,
you will be able to calm yourself down and keep that heart
rate at a healthy level.

An important note that the authors included: not every
problem has a solution, and sometimes accepting and facing
that reality is the final step of the problem-solving process.

Relax, Step Back, RelaxThe Obvious Answer to
Combating Anger
– According to a study conducted by the
Red de Revistas Cientificas de Ámerica Latina, el Caribe
España y Portugal (REDALYC) in 2009, simple relaxation
exercises are a useful technique when trying to calm angry

Conventional relaxation exercises include breathing deeply
from your diaphragm ( breathe from your gut, not your
chest); slowly repeating a calming phrase or word, such as
“relax” (remember the movies
Anger Management and Bad
Boys 2
have interesting takes on words that can be used).  If
you can, get involved in non-strenuous exercises like yoga.
Yoga can relax you and it may have the side benefit of
improving your erections.

Change Your Environment to Keep Anger Under Control
and Avoid Accidents
– The folks at REDALYC also suggest
changing your environment in order to keep anger and
accidents down.

Their study showed that angry people are more willing to
take unnecessary risks that can be harmful to themselves and

Plan ahead and schedule a 15-minute walk into your day,
especially during times that may be especially stressful. If you
find that you are often angry or anxious in the evening, get
out of the house and try something new. A change of
environment can go a long way.

Use Humor to Diffuse the Situation and Give Yourself
– The authors of the study mentioned in points
one and two also mentioned humor as a type of psychological
coping-mechanism when dealing with anger and trying to
avoid heart disease.

It is important to note that using humor doesn’t simply mean
laughing a problem off. Laughing it off is simply just a way of
suppressing anger. Instead, we can use humor to look at the
situation in a different light, perhaps from another person’s
point of view.

Often times, when we are at our angriest we can be very
irrational. Draw a quick picture of yourself to diffuse the
situation. What may seem like a very frustrating and unfair
situation from the inside might be rather comical from the

Meditate to Reduce Anger, Anxiety and Neuroticism – A
study at Buenos Aires University in 2012 showed that
undergraduate subjects showed a reduced level of anxiety,
hopelessness, neuroticism and overall anger when practicing

Each of us meditates in a slightly different way, but a few of
the key elements include a quiet, comfortable space, good
posture, steady breathing, and intense focus.

Use Guided Imagery Techniques to Reduce Overall Anger
– The same study in Buenos Aires listed guided imagery
techniques as a way to reduce anxiety, respiration rate and
overall anger. Guided Imagery and Meditation are similar in
many ways, but guided imagery is often considered a looser
term, with looser constraints. Take a look at Health Journey’s
advice page for those wishing to give guided imagery a test

Socializing Helps to Reduce Stress – According to a study
conducted by the University of Miami School of Medicine in
1997, social support groups proved helpful for hospital staff
dealing with high levels of stress due to their work. Talking
about stressful and anger-inducing situations with other
people who share the same experiences is another
psychological way to combat growing anger problems.

Massage Therapy Reduces Stress – The University of Miami
study mentioned above also noted that brief massage therapy
had similar results for angry hospital staff.

The 100 hospital employees who participated in the study
reported decreased fatigue, confusion, depression and
anxiety following a brief massage.

Muscle Relaxation Reduces Stress, Anxiety and Fatigue
The third and final aspect of the University of Miami study
deals with muscle relaxation. While muscle relaxation and
meditation are certainly very similar, there are some very
distinct differences. Meditation deals with both the
psychological and physical focusing of the body. One
interesting muscle relaxation technique involves clenching
groups of muscles for a period of 8 seconds (i.e. focusing on
the face, then the chest, then the arms, then the legs, etc.)
while inhaling, then exhaling slowly and letting those muscles
go lax.

Anger management can be a very serious problem, and while
this list of fun and sometimes unconventional strategies is
helpful, a psychiatrist may be necessary for anyone whose
angry inclinations lead them to thoughts of hurting
themselves or others.

Hopefully, anger is a fleeting a sensation for most of you and
small things like a 15-minute break of your daily routine or an
introspective and humorous drawing can help bring a little
extra happiness into your day.

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